A Codependent Mind
Get an intimate, honest look at how codependency can develop and how it can be overcome. Brian and Stephanie take you ’behind the scenes’ of their experiences and their relationship, lifting the veil on how codependent behaviors can cause life long pain and suffering if not addressed. Learn how Brian has been able to understand the web of behaviors that formed his codependency and move on to build healthier relationships.
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Wednesday Apr 30, 2025
Wednesday Apr 30, 2025
For most of his life, Brian believed that his primary challenge in relationships was mastering the tool of "being present." He thought that if he could just fully grasp this skill, everything in his life and relationships would significantly improve. However, regular listeners to this podcast will recognize that this belief was far from accurate. We discuss how he understood the tool of being present in his past relationships and how he uses it now, in the present.
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Wednesday May 14, 2025
Wednesday May 14, 2025
The 5 Love Languages claims to be a "simple and effective" tool for strengthening your connections. We explore that claim.
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Wednesday May 28, 2025
Wednesday May 28, 2025
Our new book is available in eBook format: ! You, Me & Us: Moving Beyond Relational Trauma and Disorder (Anxious/Avoidant Attachment, Codependency, BPD) to Build a Stable, Lasting Relationship. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FC6KCKNT
In this episode, we revisit the topic of caretaking and how it can be a tool for strengthening the sense of partnership within a relationship.
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Wednesday Jun 11, 2025
Wednesday Jun 11, 2025
Available now on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FC6M5X5M/
Me, You & Us Moving Beyond Relational Trauma and Disorder (Anxious/Avoidant Attachment, Codependency, BPD) to Build a Stable, Lasting Relationship
As described in this podcast, for years I struggled in romantic relationships—trapped in people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, and emotional disconnection. I didn’t know how to set boundaries, communicate honestly, or feel safe being myself. Like many people with a history of codependency or relational trauma, I was stuck in survival mode—longing for intimacy but afraid to be truly seen.
This book is both a relationship memoir and a healing guide—an honest, compassionate look at how I learned to show up differently in love. Through personal storytelling and psychological insight, I explore the relationship tools that transformed my life: empathy, vulnerability, boundaries, communication, emotional co-regulation, and more. These are the tools that helped me move from dysfunction to connection—from trauma bonds to the emotionally safe, interdependent marriage I now share with Stephanie.
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Wednesday Jun 25, 2025
Wednesday Jun 25, 2025
In Chapter Two, Me & You, Brian explores the foundational role of autonomy in building emotionally healthy relationships. Using the metaphor of a three-legged stool—Me, You, and Us—he argues that a strong relationship requires each partner to be a clearly defined individual. Drawing from his own experience, Brian reflects on how childhood trauma and emotionally volatile caregivers taught him to mute his needs and perform for safety, leading to enmeshment in relationships.
As Brian begins to heal, he learns that autonomy is not just a right but a responsibility. The chapter highlights his journey toward emotional self-regulation, self-respect, and intentionality in love. By learning to recognize his needs and express them honestly, Brian discovers that true connection is only possible when both partners show up as whole, sovereign individuals—each choosing to create an Us that’s rooted in mutual care and respect.
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