S7 - Relationship Tool #5: Lying, Resentment and Defensiveness

Relationship tools are neither good nor bad on their own. In this episode we talk about three tools that are pervasive in relationships marked by codependency - lying, resentment and defensiveness. These were Brian's go-to tools in Brian's relationship toolbox. He learned how to use them very early in childhood in order to neutralize relationship threats. As an adult, however, they have not served him well and using them in our relationship caused a lot of damage. 

Mentioned in this episode:

Season 4, episode 4: Trust (https://www.codependentmind.com/podcast-episodes/episode/6db6d080/s4-4-codependency-and-relationships-trust)

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00:02:46 Lying as a Core Codependent Behavior
00:04:55 Lying in Childhood
00:10:10 Narcissistic Lying vs Codependent Lying
00:12:30 Lying in Toxic Relationships
00:19:14 Lying, Resentment and Defensiveness in our Relationship
00:29:28 Relationship Work

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